Available Resources
The following are some articles and organizations that made a difference to some of our members and hopefully to you as well. If you click on the title or the url, it will follow the link to the site/article.
- Birth Injury Center
BIC is an advocacy site for families who have been impacted by birth injuries and stillbirths. If you have been affected, you may have many questions and may endure intense grief. The Birth Injury Center will offer any support they can.Grief After Loss
- Coping With Grief After The Loss Of A Baby – for parents
https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/baby-loss/stillbirth/coping-grief-after-loss-baby---parents - My Baby Died. At Least Ask Me His Name
https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-45398894 - Six Things I Learned After My Baby Died
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-things-you-learn-after-your-child-dies_b_576987d0e4b0869377fb4680 - Coquitlam psychologist Denis Boyd says "Grief is difficult, but it can be managed well."
https://www.denisboyd.com/2004/10/good-grievin/ - What you are going through is normal – and you will feel better
https://www.seleni.org/advice-support/2018/3/20/11-things-you-should-know-about-griefHealing After Loss
- The Baby I Lost, the Person I'm Finding
https://www.manrepeller.com/2016/12/pregnancy-loss.html - Going Back To Work. How Can Life Go On?
https://hbr.org/2019/12/going-back-to-work-after-a-pregnancy-loss - Infant Death: Grief And The Path To Remembrance (An Interesting Q & A)
https://www.stclair.org/services/mayo-clinic-health-information/article/ART-20046904/ - Pregnancy And Infant Loss: rRemembering Your Baby
https://www.babycenter.in/a1014767/pregnancy-and-infant-loss-remembering-your-baby#ixzz4Os3QcB49 - The Best Ways To Support Someone After Pregnancy Loss (Things That Help And Things That Really Don't)
https://www.abc.net.au/news/health/2018-05-27/how-to-support-someone-after-pregnancy-loss/9803578Miscarriage
- After a Miscarriage: What Happens And How To Cope
https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/after-miscarriage/ - People actually talk about miscarriage? On national radio??
https://www.cbc.ca/radio/outintheopen/pregnancy-loss-1.4133624 - The Best Advice I Received After My Miscarriage. When I lost my child, I found so many unexpected allies
https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/inspirational-stories/a33933/advice-and-support-after-miscarriage/ - Miscarriage can be a surprising cause of PTSD.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/somatic-psychology/201011/miscarriage-and-post-traumatic-stress-disorderStillbirth
- To The Nurse Who Held My Stillborn Baby
https://www.facebook.com/abeautifullyburdenedlife/photos/a.290299361375043/423192338085744/?type=3 - The Grief Wall: Loss of Identity After Stillbirth
https://whatsyourgrief.com/loss-of-identity-after-stillbirth/ - Stillbirth is one of the most devastating of losses, and for many parents, it's a loss that hits unexpectedly.
https://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-loss/stillborn-surviving-emotionally/ - 'Every parent's worst nightmare': Breaking the silence on stillbirths
https://globalnews.ca/news/2060969/ - Mom Sells Her Stillborn's Crib, But Didn't Expect The Buyer to Do This ** Login or free account setup required (still a good article)
https://www.theepochtimes.com/mom-sells-stillborns-crib-in-sale-but-she-didnt-expect-buyer-to-do-this-days-later_2953242.htmlNICU & Neo-Natal Loss
- Two preemies went into the NICU. After 100 days, one came home. Not all angels have wings, some wear scrubs.
https://noahsarkcharity.org/2016/12/20/not-angels-wings-wear-scrubs/Recurrent Losses
- Ob-Gyn Answers to FAQ's About Repeated Miscarriages
https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Repeated-Miscarriages - Amanda Tapping miscarried eight times while filming Stargate SG-1 and Stargate: Atlantis in Vancouver.
https://www.vancourier.com/news/amanda-tapping-on-coping-with-miscarriage-1.883172Trying Again
- Trying To Conceive After A Loss
https://www.throughtheheart.org/ttcal/ - Coping With The Grief Of Losing A Child While Expecting Again ** Login or free account setup required (still a good article)
https://www.theepochtimes.com/coping-with-the-grief-of-losing-a-child-while-expecting_2921988.html - Trying To Stay Pregnant
https://www.shadygrovefertility.com/blog/trying-to-conceive/trying-stay-pregnant/ - Is That Safe? Largest Study Of Running Habits Ever Shows That Running During Pregnancy Is Safe (not sure about in the L&D room)
https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/im-pregnant/pregnancy-news-and-blogs/largest-ever-study-running-habits-shows-running-pregnancy-safe - What To Expect When You're Pregnant With A Rainbow Baby
https://www.mother.ly/life/what-to-expect-pregnant-with-a-rainbow-baby - Five Ways to Support a Family Expecting a Rainbow Baby
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/5-ways-to-support-a-family-expecting-a-rainbow-baby_b_7222608 - Fourteen Truths Of Bringing Home A Rainbow Baby
https://www.scarymommy.com/bringing-home-rainbow-baby/ - Seven Things the Mom Parenting a Baby Born after Loss does Differently than other Moms
https://pregnancyafterlosssupport.org/7-things-mom-parenting-baby-born-after-loss-does-differently/Poetry
- You came to trust me with your life. Oh what a life I had planned for you! Just those few weeks...
https://myforeverchild.com/blogs/memorial-poems/just-those-few-weeks-poem - Your life was short, but not unseen; inside our hearts you've always been
http://www.breastfeedingmums.com/miscarriage-poems-born-sleeping.htm - People don't always see the tears a dad cries. A dad hurts too.
http://aholeinmyheart.com/images/A%20Dad%20hurts%20Too.pdf - A mother still loves the ones that only live in her heart
https://myforeverchild.com/blogs/memorial-poems/grieving-poem - My arms are so empty to hold you just once.
https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/baby-with-anencephaly-birth-defect-addison - A single teardrop represents the millions I have cried. My life never the same since you died.
https://myforeverchild.com/blogs/memorial-poems/my-forever-child-poem - I never kissed your tiny hands, or saw your little smile (with comments below the poem)
https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/for-my-little-one-2 - Just for today, I will offer my hand in friendship to other bereaved parents.
https://myforeverchild.com/blogs/memorial-poems/just-for-today-poemChristmas
- Things Weren't Supposed To Be This Way: Seven Ways to Help a Loss Mom Handle the Holidays
https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/complications/miscarriage/7-ways-to-help-a-loss-mom-handle-the-holidays/ - Is Being Sad At Christmas Some Huge Crime?
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/miscarriage/discussion/christmas-miscarriage-po_1 - Coping With Perinatal Loss During the Holidays
https://www.seleni.org/advice-support/2018/3/20/coping-with-perinatal-loss-during-the-holidays - How To Survive The Holidays After A Miscarriage
https://www.verywellfamily.com/surviving-holidays-after-miscarriage-2371331 - Start New Traditions That Incorporate Memories Of Your Child.
https://hopehealinghelp.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Twelve-Days-of-Christmas-for-Bereaved-Parents.pdfNew Year's
- My only resolution was to survive another year, and for it to hurt less than the year finally coming to a close.
https://stillstandingmag.com/2017/12/31/surviving-holiday-season-after-baby-loss/Springtime
- Seasons of Grief: Winter to Spring (There are crocuses in my yard!)
https://copefoundation.org/the-seasons-of-grief-winter-to-spring/ - Benjamin Was Stillborn Last Easter Sunday. This Easter I Didn't Know What To Expect
https://benjaminslight.com/2018/04/14/a-different-kind-of-easter/Mothers Day
- What Women Who Have Experienced Loss Want to Hear on Mother's Day
https://www.glamour.com/story/what-mothers-day-means-after-pregnancy-infant-loss - Mothers Day Without You
https://www.irisremembers.com/poemsandstories/viewPoem.cfm?poemID=611 - You can pretend that you are still an ordinary person and that life is still normal. But not on Mother's Day.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/a-child-who-died_b_1511543 - A Mother's Chorus: Grieving A Child On Mother's Day
https://whatsyourgrief.com/grieving-a-child/ - A Mothers' Day With Empty Arms. Two preemies didn't survive NICU, one triplet did.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/a-mothers-day-with-empty-_b_9820326Fathers Day
- Coping With Stillbirth: A Father's Point Of View
https://gulfnews.com/lifestyle/coping-with-stillbirth-a-fathers-point-of-view-1.1166103 - I knew I had to ride every emotion that came. I can genuinely say it has allowed me to be so much stronger
https://mylittlebirdytoldme.com/2017/02/02/a-message-from-one-stillborn-dad-to-another/ - Coping With Father's Day After Pregnancy Loss
https://www.verywellfamily.com/coping-with-fathers-day-after-pregnancy-loss-2371388 - A Father's Story: Mourning the Baby We Never Had
https://www.oprah.com/spirit/men-and-miscarriage-mourning-after-losing-a-baby/all#ixzz6UNiREiVZ - I'm a mother, but I share my life with a father who has grieved. A father who still does grieve.
https://stillstandingmag.com/2014/06/20/fathers-grieve/Off To School (Except For You)
- To My Son Zane On The First Day Of Kindergarten (Another Missed Milestone In A Life Not Lived)
https://www.scarymommy.com/an-open-letter-to-my-son-zane-on-the-first-day-of-kindergarten/ - As I see child after tiny child enter their new classroom, I wonder how you would have fared on your first day at school.
https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/aimee-foster/the-ghost-at-the-classroo_b_11854790.htmlThanksgiving
- The chairs around our Thanksgiving table mocked me, reminding me that our children should have filled them
https://columbiasc.momcollective.com/celebrating-thanksgiving-when-your-heart-is-broken/